The grass always seems greener on the other side, right? But doesn’t it rain typically in the same way? Don’t bugs land on the same blades of grass? Don’t people walk different paths on all of the various patches of green earth?
I was having a conversation with a friend about the negative self talk. The I would rather have this struggle than the one I have now. Or why me? Why is this the issue I am dealing with?
I don’t know about you, but I often find myself comparing my situation to others. Even worse, I find myself comparing different diagnoses with my child. “I would rather her have this than that…” None of that is healthy, or useful. But it seems as though people often do it regardless.
I was talking to another friend who pointed out that EVERYONE has their own version of hard. I stopped her and was wowed by what she was saying. It is so true.
No two people have the same exact issues, worries, or problems. My small problems could be big ones for others and vice versa.
The truth of the matter is, I put myself out there in so many ways. I blog, I create videos, I create fundraisers for my daughter’s foundation, and I am open and honest about our lives.
But what about the times when I am not hiding behind the smile?
Parents have it hard. Parents who have disabled, medically complex, atypical children have it hard. Neither parent can compare their lives.
We all have our struggles. But, at the end of the day, I think it is vital that we share with each other- the struggles. Less competition, more unity. The grass grows at its own pace.